Is Your Relationship In Trouble?

You may have noticed some changes in your partner lately. Is it something you should be worried about or just ignore? Following are the most common warning signs that may indicate your relationship is headed for trouble if you don't address the issues now.

Your Partner Is Spending Less Time With You

Look for a dramatic decrease in together time. If your partner used to call you every day, if you saw each other on certain days, had your happy little routines, and suddenly things have tapered off or halted completely, this can point to possible trouble.

Don’t jump to conclusions and automatically think he/she is cheating or doesn’t love you anymore, sometimes they may have to work late and at times they truly may be out with friends.

After all, you probably work late at times and visit friends too! If it becomes a pattern though and is combined with any of the following signs, you’ll definitely want to talk with your partner about this and work on bridging the gap between the two of you.

Your Partner Starts Dressing Differently

If your partner used to be perfectly comfortable in sweats and old T-shirts and suddenly starts dressing better before going out, if he seldom shaved and now has a baby-smooth face, if she never wore perfume and now won’t walk out the door without spraying some on, be on alert.

These signs suggest that a boyfriend or girlfriend may be losing interest in the relationship and as a result, they are consciously or subconsciously trying to attract someone else.

Alternately, a partner may be having self-esteem issues and by dressing better it’s giving them the boost they need.

Again, talking to your partner about the changes is the best course of action. Open communication is the key factor in making any relationship work.

There’s Less Intimacy In The Relationship

If he/she seems uninterested in being affectionate and/or if your sex life takes a nosedive, this is another sign that things may be rocky between you.

Remember, there needs to be multiple signs not just this one or that one. At times your partner may be under a great deal of stress or is depressed — these are two other common reasons for a decrease in intimacy.

However, when a person loses interest in their relationship, they usually distance themselves physically and emotionally.

Sparks Fly When You Talk

Maybe you’re just feeling insecure and you blow small things out of proportion, maybe you’re just feeling needy right now. That happens. But if you approach your partner and discuss the fact that you feel they aren’t acting like they used to or you miss how things used to be between you and he/she erupts like a volcano this is a bad sign!

If your partner truly loves you and cares about making the relationship work, why get upset if you mention some changes in personality or actions?

Fixing What May Be Broken

On their own, these problems may be fairly insignificant, but combined they add up to the fact that there are problems in the relationship you can no longer ignore.

You need to take the initiative and try to work things out. Talk with your partner, don’t yell or cry or accuse. Just tell him/her how you’re feeling, that you miss the special times together, and that you want to do whatever it takes to be close again.

Avoid pointing fingers and pointing out faults, nobody is open to changing or trying if they’re automatically put on the defensive. Try to remain open, loving, kind and compassionate.

If you’re partner is willing to open up and work with you on making changes, great! If he/she has no desire to create a safe, stable, and loving relationship with you, then you may want to think about separating and finding someone who is more suitable for you.

Love is everywhere, don’t think you have to settle for one person if you aren’t happy.

The Truth About Soulmates

This is one of the areas that people ask about the most. Who, what and where is their soulmate? And how to find that person?

The truth is you have more than one soulmate. Thank goodness! Who wants to try and track down that ONE elusive person? Here are other frequently asked questions about the mate of your soul...

How will I find a soulmate?

Never worry that you'll never find your soulmate. You WILL come together, and you have a better chance if you are open to it. Being open to this means that you know you deserve a true love and that you aren't so worried about finding him or her that you actually create a block.

How do I know if he/she is my soulmate?

This is easier than you think. People often believe that a soulmate union is pure bliss. Not so! A soulmate union is very deep indeed, but a soulmate will also challenge you, frustrate you, and dig in so deep it feels like a thorn at times. Simply put, it's a person that you can't get out of your system.

So are some soul mate unions actually negative?

Nothing having to do with the soul is negative. Everything we go through here on earth in our human form is presented to us so that our souls can learn, love, and grow.

Should I stay with a soul mate who is making me miserable?

Never! You deserve to be happy and have true love. Just because a soulmate has come into your life and you live in misery doesn't mean you have to stay! You are/were with this person in order to learn something. Believe it or not, many times it's the simple lesson of letting go and raising our self-esteem!

And don't forget, they are going through their own life lessons. If they're stuck in a low place--anger problems, abuse, addictions--they need to learn self-control, love and tolerance, but you shouldn't stick around while they refuse to learn!

Once you move on, your lesson is hopefully learned and you can now find a more positive relationship. Never stay with anyone who abuses you in any way!

How do I attract my soul mate?

Your energy reaches far and wide and your souls will recognize one another and come together at some point. The main problem is some people crave love so badly that they jump into the first relationship that comes along, stay in it and end up miserable, find someone else before they're even out of that relationship, then they attract more of the same...so on and so on.

Your energy is what attracts people to you. If you're in a bad place in your life or feel badly about yourself, you'll attract a person who is attracted to the energy you have at that time. So it's wise to be sure your self-esteem is in a good place and that the influences from your current or previous relationship isn't affecting you.

Everyone can find their soulmate. Don't ever believe you are meant to be alone or settle for someone who makes you unhappy. Be true to yourself, love who you are, release the past and any negative habits, and you'll soon find you attract better people...and your soulmate won't be far behind!